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For those single men who steadfastly strive to enhance their
chances at an exciting and
successful social life, you may stop reading now. I wish you the best.
Smile and be proud of your
efforts. This column is not directed at you. I am writing today to
inform the single men (you
know who you are) who repeatedly sit at home complaining and whining
about the status of their
social lives claiming that there are "no quality women out there that
interest me or who are worth
my time."
Let me shed some light for you. You could not be more mistaken
or misguided. How do I
know? I plan regular events for singles. I talk with those who
attend. There are literally
thousands of attractive, intelligent, sincere, ambitious, talented,
successful and spirit-filled
women who are looking to pursue relationships with quality men. The
problem is that they are
wondering where all the men have gone. Experience has led women to
believe that single men are
either all spoken for, in permanent hibernation or simply don't exist.
Why do they believe this
to be so? Because when women attend a typical singles gathering, they
talk and interact primarily
with other women because they are the only ones present.
Men, write this down and embrace it as fact. The two top
opportunities for men to meet and
interact with women in casual and stress-reduced environments are
"active" singles organizations
and church-related single's ministries. Singles organizations
nationwide are experiencing a
disheartening shortage of men. The question is why? Many men correlate
involvement in these
groups with personal failure, weakness or desperation. One man
indicated to me that "only losers
who have totally given up and lost their pride attend single's events."
When I asked him when he
last went on a date his reply was "I can't recall." Go figure.
What men like this fail to realize is that from a woman's
perspective, it is just the
opposite. Women consider it a sign of strength, self-confidence, and
ambition when a man is
willing to take an active role in the success of his social life. A
confident man who is willing
to display a nurturing spirit, yet powerful presence will find himself
very attractive to women.
Church-related groups provide numerous opportunities for singles
to interact with others
who hold core beliefs similar to theirs. Whether through classes,
ensembles,
planned events, trips or volunteer endeavors, occasions are provided in
which neither party need
prepare for or plan the interaction.
As I see it, single men have two choices. Continue to whine,
make excuses and experience
loneliness or put themselves in a position to meet someone special.
Either way, the choice is
theirs. But remember, what people practice, they become good at.
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